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Do you have someone whom you consider as the one that got away? If you reconnect, should you give it another chance considering both of you are single, either by choice or by circumstance?

If you're like 40ish like me, I bet you have someone you call your Totga, except if you are NBSB (no boyfriend since birth). Sometimes we can't but help think of that one person whom we think is our TOTGA or the one that got away. Haha, I am a sucker for all these "millenial" terminology.

The term "the one that got away" has been on my mind for quite sometime when a friend of mine mentioned it when we were talking about relationships that were once sweet but turned sour. Yes, sour is better than "bitter".

I thought about the totga in my life, and I haven't really considered someone as that person, until lately, when I really reflected on it. Not that it's important now, but you see, when you think about how you missed seeing those opportunities in the past, it gives you a very important life lesson. You learn how to open your eyes and give people and situations a second chance or whatever number of chances your heart can give.

I was someone's totga, I should say not once but twice, if only for the fact that they knew I was someone that they wanted, yet they missed the chance to make it a reality. My children's dad proposed to me twice, but I never felt that it was the right thing to do, to say "yes."

The ring was there, but sadly the moment wasn't. I felt that we can't fix a relationship by marrying each other, when we were in the middle of a crisis. I thought that fixing the crisis first was essential before marrying each other.

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